Yes, it’s real. There are really five things I don’t like about this motherhood journey. And crap, is it even okay for me to make that statement? I mean, I know I shouldn’t complain but come on, let’s be real here. Every single mother has something that just irks her.
Before I list my “things”, I want to make my point clear. I love being a mom. But just like any other mom out in this crazy big world, motherhood is hard and it’s so easy to feel lost, exhausted, and overwhelmed. It’s unbelievably easy to forget who you were before mama and also hate the person you’ve become. Not the mama you are, but the woman who is freaking tired and can’t even stand staring at her face in the mirror (read up on finding you here).
Ready for some sympathy because you’ll definitely get it from this mama!
Five Things I Don’t Like About Motherhood:
Y’all. The wrinkles are FOR REAL. Also am I the only one with dark circles under her eyes and bags that bulge every time I smile? Ugh. I never dealt with this before and then my son was born and it’s like I all of a sudden developed forehead wrinkles, chin wrinkles, under eye wrinkles…
2. Time Flies
Now that I have two children time flies even faster. I can always tell the months have flown by when a pair of pants are too small for my son or when his shoes are too tight. Like seriously, where did the time go? My heart tugs a little because I don’t want my babies to grow up! I want them to stay littles forever and always!
Because let’s be real. Moms get a lot of it. Oh and they also get a ton of criticism and pressure. There’s literally 99 different ways to raise a child, but some people feel so right that they have to share their opinion with a tired mama who’s trying her best. If you’re that person giving your two thoughts to another mom, stop. and shut up next time.
Did y’all know there is pressure in the mom life? Aha, yes there is! I mean, there’s pressure whether or not you got out of bed before 8am or if you even showered today or if you just managed to put dinner in the microwave. Who gives a freaking crap! Seriously. Moms stay up most of the night dealing with babies and then can hardly sneak away for more than 5 minutes at a time without the house falling apart. Give a mom some slack. Give yourself some slack.
5. Faking It All
So this one is huge! There are so many moms who “fake it” just to get by and this has got to stop! First of all, no one has to fake anything. If you feel like crying your eyes out and sobbing like a baby, DO IT. And if you can’t do more than put your hair up and hide the 7 day old greasy hair with a cute headband, DO IT. You are mom enough and you don’t have to hide that you got it all together. Heck, I fall apart most days. We’re only humans.
If there’s only one thing you take away from this post let it be: discovering who you are as a mom and not letting others define you!
I’m sure each one of you have experienced the cry your eyes out mommy days and the ‘flying on cloud nine’ mommy days. There will be up days and down days. And don’t ever feel guilty for having not so good days and not liking every aspect of motherhood. It’s tough ladies. It’s hard feeling like your world is upside down somedays and swallowing you.
Let’s face it, motherhood is that journey full of tears, laughter, smiles, confusion, messiness, imperfection, and full of crazy love!
What certain things do you dislike about motherhood?
I can relate to all of these! I was just despairing about my under-eye wrinkles yesterday. Time to invest in some eye cream. Ha!
Right?! lol. I totally use up my concealer before any of my other makeup products! I actually have to order some more haha 😉 it’s that mom life!
Wow, very well written post. I love how honest you were here. Thank you for sharing this! <3
Aw, thank YOU for reading and commenting! I love readers like you. <3
Yep, motherhood is no walk in the park. It’s more of a run through the park chasing a toddler while pushing an empty stroller that was abandoned by said toddler. 🙂 I love what you say about discovering ourselves as mothers rather than trying to fit into some predefined mold we think society has set for us.
Haha, Meg that’s SO true! I often feel abandoned by my toddler whose happy one second and then I can look at him with a smile and a second later he throws himself on the floor. Like what the heck?!
I agree with All Of These!! I love being a Mama, but the last three points can make it crazy stressful if I let it. And #2, I wish it would slow down just a little!! Lastly wrinkles, I have found I am really good at pretending they aren’t there! 😂
Haha, oh my wrinkles definitely exist and I’m only 24 years old. Like what will happen when I hit 30?!?!
Hell to the yes! I love motherhood more than anything!! But I totally agree with you on these! Especially time!! My babies are growing waaayyy too fast!
I’ve come to the conclusion that the babies grow way too and I can’t stop the time anymore. I can choose to spend more time with them though and that’s exactly what I do now! 🙂
Agreed! Judgment, wrinkles, and pressure!
Mmhh! Some of the things no one actually tells you about. You just have to figure it out on your own.
I am not a parent but its nice to read about the not-so-glamorous life of being a mommy but totally worth it 😉
Anita, for sure! There are way more worth it moments though because those little babes make the world a wonderful place!
Yes these are definitely all true!
Crazy huh, but so right on!
Yep to everything! Good thing all the wonderful cancels these out!
Agree! I am so thankful my little loves make the stress way better and pretty much nonexistent!
Yes, amen, mama! I so agree we all need to lift each other up and not tear each other down. Oh, and wrinkles don’t even get me started on that one, ugh!
Nicole, it’s sad how much judgement and criticism there is in this life and especially in the mom circle!
I think out of your list, I hate judgement the most, it causes me to have so much mom guilt. I think the judgement is what causes the wrinkles.
hmm, I can definitely see the connection there! It’s so upsetting how much crap moms get from other moms or even those who aren’t moms. I don’t take any advice from anyone unless they have a similar background and/or are close to me!
Such a good post. I love “faking it”. We all feel the need to portray ourselves as “having it all together”. Post of the time we actually are just barely “holding it all together”.
Yes so true! I love the moms who are downright real with themselves. In fact, I admire them and they are the real heroes! 🙂
Ahh, I can relate to ALL of these! So much. I’m working on all of them, but the faking it all is the worst for me.
Ashely, it’s so easy to fake it, especially when there are tons of ways to do it over social media 😉 I hear you on this one. BUT it’s okay to NOT be okay!