The past few weeks have been extremely crazy and today is the first day I actually have a chance to sit in front of my computer and work on a post! This makes me very happy because one, I love to write and two, it gives me a chance to talk with you beautiful mamas! So lets tackle this post because I have a good one for you and I’m like 99.9% sure you can relate to this message, especially if you’re a mama who loves to dolly up every now and then.
Remember the days of dressing up, fixing your hair, putting on makeup, and actually carving out an hour or two just to make yourself presentable for the day? Now it’s what 15 minutes, maybe 30 minutes if you get a shower in before rolling on with your day. It’s usually a ponytail or bun, a boyfriend shirt, yoga pants, and vans that have me ready for my day. Sound familiar?
The truth is, motherhood is a whirlwind of exciting and also scary ups and downs. It is perfectly normal to feel in control one second and then completely out of it the next. Because let’s be real and honest, so much is expected from a mom. Moms take care of kiddos, do the shopping, the cooking, the cleaning, the laundry, the dishes, the bedtime and then once all that is done hot mama (or hot wife) better come into action because baby daddy wants his turn.
You see, there are so many hats we wear every single day and it’s no wonder that by 10pm mama is done. And along with motherhood marriage changes. So let’s get through the three rules:
Rule # 1: Life Changes
Life changes, y’all. If you didn’t already know that, let’s restate it again. Life Changes.
Little people come along, responsibilities increase, household chores grow, the laundry never stops, grocery lists get longer, and the energy to fix yourself up on a day to day basis becomes less and less of a priority to you.
Rule #2: Change is Normal
Change is good and change keeps things alive and it’s impossible to get board with change. Of course there’s exhaustion that comes along with change and that adds to you not really giving a
crap about everything going on and especially not you. Moms somehow always end up sacrificing the life out of themselves and forget that they too are humans (super, powerful, majestic, beautiful humans). But with change there comes the next rule.
Rule #3: Change can Find or Lose YOU
And it is entirely up to you to figure out what you want. Motherhood brings in a ton of change. In fact, there is so much change that comes along with motherhood that it is perfectly normal for you to feel lost, beaten up, discouraged, and exhausted. Children are wonderful. Having your own is even more wonderful. But it’s totally okay to say you’re overwhelmed. It’s totally okay to admit that you can’t superpower it all. And it’s totally okay to say you miss the woman before mama (hint, perfect post to read up on her). I miss her too.
So this is what I have to say to you today: care for you.